Why Won’t They Just Get Organized?

What do we do when we are ready for someone to get organized, but they aren’t ready

People who don’t have a problem keeping themselves organized find it very difficult to understand why others do. “Why can’t they just get rid of their stuff or pay their bills on time?”

We’ve talked about the readiness factor before. I think it is good to mention the definition of ready one more time …

To truly determine if you are ready, ask yourself the below questions which are based on the meaning of the word ready in the Oxford English Dictionary.

  • Do I want to put things in order?
  • Do I have a willingness to commit to the task at hand?
  • Am I without feelings of, and am I not exhibiting, reluctance?
  • Am I liable to undertake the task at hand?

One of the hardest things to help someone understand is what being ready really means. This is particularly hard when one family member is ready to make a change, and another is not.  Psychotherapy is often the best place to start if conflict is creating stress for you or your family.

A often recommend the book, Digging Out: Helping Your Loved One Manage Clutter, Hoarding, and Compulsive Acquiring, by Michael Tompkins, to concerned family members. Ultimately, the state of readiness is an individual one. A person is ready to accept help and make changes only when their threshold of tolerance of their current situation has been exceeded, or when a life-changing event occurs that prevents them from managing living in their home in its current state.

Some questions you might present to someone if you think they truly need help with organization:

  • Are you unable/unwilling to have company in your home because you have too much stuff? Or can’t clean properly?
  • Have you been unable to have your home repaired or serviced because you are too embarrassed or not able to have a serviceman/contractor access what he needs to get to in your home?
  • Do you look around at all the things you would like to do in your home, but feel overwhelmed and quit each time you start?
  • Are you having problems keeping up with your mail and paying your bills each month? Are you missing or are you often late for deadlines or appointments?

Remember the Zen proverb, “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.”

When you or a loved one is ready, we are ready to help. Give us a call.

Jenny Power, Absolutely Organized, LLC

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